Dating and hiv

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" I kept asking the nurse who took me upstairs at the Margaret Sanger Center in the East Village for a second blood test to confirm the rapid test result.'That is the start of Fratti's powerful essay, published by Redbook, offering a glimpse into the difficult world of dating with HIV.A person with HIV becomes 'undetectable' when treatment suppresses the virus to a level so low in their blood that it cannot be detected by measurements.As someone who is outwardly HIV-positive, I often get the privilege of hearing from other newly diagnosed people from across the country.As anyone can imagine, learning that you are newly positive can feel like taking a bullet.After all, you don’t disclose all of the dirty details of your life on a first date, what makes your status any different. Those dirty details are the layers of who you are as a person and they are revealed as a relationship develops.Your status isn’t a part of your character; it is a matter of logistics.Roughly 30 percent of America's 1.2 million people with HIV - including Karen Fratti - have reached an undetectable viral load which underscores the need for expanded access to testing, treatment, and care.

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No study has ever shown HIV transmission from someone with an undetectable viral load.

But then when the episode aired, it was amazing how many people responded in such a positive way, and how people were so willing to share their own personal stories. Living with HIV is like living with many other chronic diseases.

And also through Facebook I get so many different emails from my friends'who share their personal stories about living with HIV.' What is important to remember is that you are not alone: You are one of the nearly 1.2 million Americans living with HIV, according to 2008 data (the latest available) from the U. While you can't transmit diabetes or lupus to a sexual partner, there are effective ways to ensure potential partners are never at risk for contracting HIV from you.

So sometimes it is best talk to a stranger before you can catch your breath and find your words for your family and friends. And I went wah, wah, wah into my wine glass all through the night.

Although I am no psychotherapist, I can definitely relate and empathize with a myriad of fears that flood a person’s headspace when they first receive the news. Truth is, once I picked myself out of my puddle of tears, I was relatively unaltered.

To date, an undetectable load is almost always achieved with daily doses of antiretroviral drugs.

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