" I kept asking the nurse who took me upstairs at the Margaret Sanger Center in the East Village for a second blood test to confirm the rapid test result.'That is the start of Fratti's powerful essay, published by Redbook, offering a glimpse into the difficult world of dating with HIV.A person with HIV becomes 'undetectable' when treatment suppresses the virus to a level so low in their blood that it cannot be detected by measurements.As someone who is outwardly HIV-positive, I often get the privilege of hearing from other newly diagnosed people from across the country.As anyone can imagine, learning that you are newly positive can feel like taking a bullet.After all, you don’t disclose all of the dirty details of your life on a first date, what makes your status any different. Those dirty details are the layers of who you are as a person and they are revealed as a relationship develops.Your status isn’t a part of your character; it is a matter of logistics.Roughly 30 percent of America's 1.2 million people with HIV - including Karen Fratti - have reached an undetectable viral load which underscores the need for expanded access to testing, treatment, and care.
No study has ever shown HIV transmission from someone with an undetectable viral load.
But then when the episode aired, it was amazing how many people responded in such a positive way, and how people were so willing to share their own personal stories. Living with HIV is like living with many other chronic diseases.
And also through Facebook I get so many different emails from my friends'who share their personal stories about living with HIV.' What is important to remember is that you are not alone: You are one of the nearly 1.2 million Americans living with HIV, according to 2008 data (the latest available) from the U. While you can't transmit diabetes or lupus to a sexual partner, there are effective ways to ensure potential partners are never at risk for contracting HIV from you.
So sometimes it is best talk to a stranger before you can catch your breath and find your words for your family and friends. And I went wah, wah, wah into my wine glass all through the night.
Although I am no psychotherapist, I can definitely relate and empathize with a myriad of fears that flood a person’s headspace when they first receive the news. Truth is, once I picked myself out of my puddle of tears, I was relatively unaltered.
To date, an undetectable load is almost always achieved with daily doses of antiretroviral drugs.