This time, I want to apply some of the same principles we've been thinking about to a relationship that moves beyond the "early stages" and gets serious.The essential line to walk here is to get to know one another better so that you can make a responsible and informed decision about marriage, but without married in the process and without violating 1 Thessalonians 4's admonition not to defraud and mistreat one another.Alcohol impairs judgment - something you'll need in spades when getting to know someone new.Avoid drinking or using anything that might impair your judgement on the first few dates, where possible.Plan instead to drive, take the bus, walk or bike to your date - especially if the date is a first time meeting.Then at the end of the date, if the sparks aren't flying, you aren't obliged to accept their offer of transportation.
How can you say definitively that other things are wrong? Shouldn't our physical relationship "progress" as other aspects of our relationship deepen? I understand most physical stuff is wrong, but what about just kissing? With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.
We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.
In the design of a relationship that we're carving out here, caring well for one another means we can't place too high a premium on being clear. In fact, many women tell me they deeply appreciate such clarity.
Guys, again the brunt of the work falls to you here. Let me also reiterate that, like asking someone to date initially, It's just a marker to say things are going well, and as far as you're concerned, the game is changing.
If you open to chapter 119, you will see that it is comprised of many short paragraphs according to the order of the Aleph-Bet.