Now that I'm nearing the end of the divorce process (it's a marathon — not a sprint!), I'm starting to reflect on the things I wish I had done differently or, perhaps, the things I wish I had known before getting a divorce, period.It was the best choice to make, but it would have been great had I known of the potential issues she might have had and the ways to help our child through it ahead of time.The reality is no one can predict how a divorce will impact your kids.I don't think there is any real book to prepare you for divorce, as each person's experience is so unique.But as you're headed down the aisle — that's the court aisle — of divorce, there are some things it wouldn't hurt to know as you sever your formerly "forever" relationship.Like any life process, divorce has a beginning and an end.The end of the divorce process generally involves learning from the past, taking a forward-looking, present-centered stance, adapting to one's changed circumstances, and doing what one can to reinvent and reconstitute one's life.
The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than that for first marriages.
They rush into new relationships -- and often into new marriages -- within the first year.
"That's no doubt the biggest mistake," says Buser, who is based in Houston.
Too many men seek out a new relationship before the dust has settled on their divorce, says psychologist Sam J.
Buser, Ph D, coauthor of The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce.
Many experts believe this is because a majority of divorcees leap into hasty ill-conceived second marriages out of loneliness rather than carefully planning them for success.