If one partner has more debt than the other, or worse yet one partner is debt free, the sparks can start to fly when discussions about income, spending, and debt servicing come up.Personality can play a big role in discussions about money.“I love you.” Those three simple words can cause so much trouble when they’re said too soon, too late, too often, too little. Next time you’re with your partner, open your mind and see how their kind intentions speak volumes of their love for you, and how your responses speak of yours. There is a door in their heart that they keep locked up, for opening it makes them vulnerable, and being so makes them uncomfortable. We experience love every day, we’re just unaware of it.It also divides the spending power, eliminating much of the financial value of marriage.From school loans to car loans, credit cards to gambling habits, most people come to the altar with financial baggage.And yet, they trust you enough to show you that side of them.
These questions will help you go a little deeper than discussing work, kids, vacations, or sports.
There was a 23% relative increase in the rate of long-distance marriages between 20 (2.36% of marriages in 2000 and 2.9% of marriages in 2005).
Greater exposure to far away singles accounts for part of this trend.“People travel for their work, they commute farther, they generally travel more than we did just a few decades ago.
One study of dating relationships estimated 1 in 7 (14%) were long-distance.
Extrapolating from census data it is likely that 3.5 million dating couples are long-distance.
Newlyweds have an even greater chance of being long-distance early in their marriage with one study of 600 couples showing 1 in 10 were long-distance during some portion of their first 3 years.